[Admittedly, that hit a nerve.]

You can make those choices, but don't expect everyone to be grateful about those choices. This is how some are choosing to live their lives here. What you fail to understand is that when someone really believes in what they're doing they don't give a damn about any consequences. They'll put up with the consequences and then come back with vengeance in mind. That's how this works. Forcing help or change onto them is only going to drive them back further. It's going to make it worse.